​Imagine someone at the piano, mak​ing a dramatic pause and then ​proceeding to hit​ the same key in the same manner over and over again. How long will you be able to listen to it, before you scream – Enough!​

Yet, when it comes to emotional reactions, many people learned to stay within a very limited range of responses. Often, they feel as if they didn’t have any choice in how to respond to a certain trigger.

“Of course, I got angry! She had no business talking to me this way!”

“How else can I feel, when I you give me this look?” 

“Because he left me, I can never be happy.”

“I always feel nervous, when I have to ​speak in public.”

Most people cannot even imagine responding in a different way. And even when they do, they usually come up with a very limited number of options.

“So you feel nervous, when you ​speak in public? How would you rather feel?”

“Err… Not nervous?”

“What if you had a treasure chest filled with every possible feeling​. ​How would you like to feel?”

“I want to be confident?”

“What else?”

“I don’t know…Happy?”

Now, imagine what if you started thinking about your neurology as an orchestra with a multitude of musical instruments, capable of infinite variety of sounds? What if you opened yourself to possibilities of experiencing a much wider range of emotions? Much. Much wider.

There was time I was so terrified of speaking in front of people, I couldn’t have imagined feeling anything else. Then, as I kept discovering possibilities opening for me with NLP and hypnosis tools, I started dreaming about being confident. Today, looking back I can see how limited my fantasy was. Just confident? That’s all? How about feeling joyful? How about ​having fun? What about accepted, loved, open, free, flowing, flexible, outrageous, curious, courageous and connected? Having a ​wide range of rich, vibrant, powerful feelings allows me to create a ​symphonic experience for my audience.

What about in personal relationships? Imagine if instead of always feeling hurt, when he forgets your birthday, you had an easy access to a wide variety of responses.  For example, compassion (is he forgetful? Is he too busy? Maybe he never learned to pay attention to other people’s birthdays?). Curiosity – I wonder how he does it – how he forgets something that happens the same time every year). Mischief – O​K, mister, you forgot my birthday… what shall I do about it? Understanding – I know he loves me, even though he sometimes forgets important dates. Or how about love – I love him even though he is forgetful.  

How do you decide which response is the best? I learned to think about my goals. How do ​I want to feel? How ​do I want ​my responce to ​influence others and my future? What do ​I want and ​which frame of thinking will get me there in a fastest and most enjoyable way.

As you try on different responses, you too will be able to find ​those that ​are both useful and ​enjoyable.

​Most importantly as you widen your range of emotional responses, your life will acquire symphonic qualities – power, richness and ​depth of experiences.